It’s okay not to be okay as one Kdrama title goes. It’s one title that’s very truthful. No wonder Filipinos are hooked with Kdramas. Add up, “When Life Gives You Tangerines” then we’re in for a treat binge-watching!
A lot of times we find ourselves at crossroads and challenges. Life was never an easy one, we have our problems and ups and downs too. We have mood swings depending on the weather, circumstances, hormones or genetics. We may be affected by the food we eat or the fact of having no food at all.
We may be stressed some days – beginning in the morning until the afternoon especially because of the demands of our hectic schedules as entrepreneurs or at the responsibilities and accountabilities at work. We may be affected by rants of our workmates or tempers of our bosses or even those under our supervision.
We may also be worried about our family and love ones especially when they are sick physically or even mentally. The truth of the matter is – we are like bump cars with limited spaces so much that when we drive we bump into each other. This means that our rides are interconnected and being alone is never a life-long option. We still need others for support and assistance.
In these times, we are not nomads anymore but we are aware that people suffer from mental health conditions – that hallucinations or psychosis happens whether visual or auditory. We also know that some people undergo delusions finding it hard to determine reality as a matter of a mental condition. We may be sad falling into a long depression or we might lose our hope and zest for life.
It may happen to anyone and anywhere or everyone and everywhere. Although some people stay in denial that they don’t need help, know that it’s okay to not be okay and ask help – especially from professionals.
Every emotion is valid. However, despite our emotions we must be accountable and responsible for our actions. It is not bad to cry. It is okay to be angry but not curse and disrespect.
We may even be in grief due to loss – the ones where we ask the “why’s” and “if’s”. The thoughts of believing and not believing in a supreme being. The questioning mind that says, “why do good people die?” The fact that our time in this world is limited.
Every bad energy is exhausting and creates a domino effect on people. Even toxicity may happen in filial or romantic relationships. The kind of relationships where we don’t grow so we must let go.
What is the sense of all these? It is knowing that it’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay not to smile or not laugh sometimes. That it is okay to cry – the tears that wipes and cleans our eyes. Perhaps, that’s the purpose of teardrops.
Remember that it’s okay to lose or be lost. Remember that whatever circumstances, we will eventually learn. Know also that there is hope and faith. Find people who will listen and support us for mutual growth. Those are the people worth keeping – the ones that make us sane and tell us it’s okay to not be okay.
Find people who will not control us but will let us breathe anew. People with bright perspectives and sincere concern. It may be a hard journey but eventually we’ll get there even with baby steps.
Let me ask, “how are you?” I hope you get better everyday. If not, take a pause and then breathe and begin again. There is so much glory and surprise worth living for. My story isn’t over yet; neither is yours.