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The Saga

Leslie Dulfo
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๐—ง๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ช๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ป๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด
๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ธ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฎ๐—ด๐—ฒ, ๐—ณ๐—ฎ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—น๐˜†, ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ฝ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ.

Dear future, I look upon you with fear. Even though I try to quip you from a distance, space and time. I cannot spell laughter and fun for tomorrow. Yet I look with surprise and amazement – a contradiction so rich from a crisp chocolate bar from the home refrigerator. It’s all pent-up and mixed-up emotions.

The past may be a trauma. The ones you regret reliving or least kept remembering wanting for answers or closures. The churning of the stomach, that may be brought by a toxic love lost then followed by a new love recourse with fear that it would end up just the same – unhappy and alone.

The looming reality that people you meet who never stayed will attract you to the same lost and wandering people who will eventually be lost too or you will somehow lose. Thinking it was all about you – your fault and your inability to be a lesser person.

Remember that people come and go and their staying sometimes may never be about you but a reflection of how they are to themselves. That walking out that door is the same feeling as it was entering in that commitment years before – uncertain.

Divorce has been a subdued and long overdue topic. The homewreckers and side chicks have been accounted as faulty from the start. But as in any relationship, it takes two to tango.

Marriage as it is, is based on mutual understanding, a mutual contract, a mutual commitment and a God-given gift if it lasts forever as mutually satisfying. Some have been bound by this contract even if they have parted ways decades ago. Some have been bound in the same ways that even if toxicity exists, they still took the road to endure the hurt and the pain plus the diminishing respect.

Divorce and annulment have affected many children and so does the mishap of legal separation. It has all created fears to children of yester years allowing them to fear commitment and having families of their own. As it was in staying together for the sake of children but who grew up in violent and chaotic homes and have their own stories to share on the repercussions of parents fighting and its pervasive effects to mental health.

Religion and politics are beyond these scopes. Reality is as it is – the mental health of every person whether a parent or a child is affected. There are indeed both internal and external factors affecting everyone and anyone. It’s like a faucet opened by a motion, where the water eventually flows. A perfect example of triggers.

It is also a result of male dominated assemblymen of the former Constitution that allowed women to be adjudged as criminally called adulterers if they end up in a motel or hotel with a man other than their husband. Quite unlikely by man who can only be judged guilty for concubinage if they are proven (mind you – hard evidence and proof beyond reasonable doubt) to house their mistresses in a conjugal dwelling or under circumstances that are scandalous or cohabiting therein.

Life and mental health are a myriad of things. But sometimes, our opinions don’t make the necessary changes. After all, thoughts are just thoughts until they become words and influence actions.

What am I really getting at? No matter how pro or anti-Divorce bill you are, live with empathy. Some people are facing battles we know nothing about. Let that sink in – deep!

Let me affirm and reaffirm things in case you forget, โ€œWhatever circumstances you are in, know you are worthy and capable of love.โ€ Let me repeat this as an echo and an important note to self, โ€œYou are worthy and capable of love.โ€

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May hope peep even in the shadiest of light. May the force be with us in this saga!

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